I have to prepare you, this blog post is slightly more insightful and personal compared to the others. Psychology is a topic that I am very passionate about, it would explain why I completed a BA in this field. Although I feel I have a certain ease with this topic, one element I will admit to struggling with is conducting introspection. I am not sure if many of you feel this way but sometimes it seems difficult to identify the source of certain of our behaviours and feelings. Last week, I faced a situation that left me with no choice but to understand “why” I was feeling a certain way and so I am sharing a glimpse of my reflection with you!
Life is filled with surprises, some are wonderful and exciting while others can be quite devastating and heartbreaking. I love the idea of “Destiny” and strongly want to believe that we have a purpose in life but unfortunately my logical and practical mind tends to perceive this concept as simply irrational and unrealistic. I have a profound respect for those of you who do believe in this and try to learn from you regardless of my hesitation to believe. One thing I can understand and support is the following motto: “By being respectful and kind towards others, you will attract good people and this will inevitably lead to good things for yourself and all those around you“. It’s a principal that guides my gestures on a daily basis and I am pretty proud of that.
This week, however, I learned a very important lesson. In fact, it’s a lesson that I should have learned a VERY VERY long time ago. Nothing could have prepared me for what happened. I was faced with a reality, a truth that turned my world upside down. It was a form of betrayal I had NEVER experienced before and that pushed me to look for answers. What just happened? How did someone get away with treating me this way? How can I ensure this never happens to me again? This search lead me to a very simple fact. My initial motto has been missing a CRITICAL piece all along. Yes, it’s true that being nice to others is very important, but first and foremost you have to be kind and respectful towards yourself. This is exactly where I have gone wrong not just recently, but my entire life. I am not saying I am push-over in any means as, after all, I have learned to assert myself more and more through the years, but guilt and fear of hurting others is the core reason why we attract the abuse of others. This abuse can come in many forms physical/verbal/psychological and from anyone: family, friend, lover, colleague, stranger, etc. This is why setting boundaries is so important.
Acknowledging and communicating that your needs are just as important as everyone else’s is at the base of everything.
Call it an epiphany, or whatever you like, but this has really changed my perception on things. It really fuelled some kind of fire inside of me, and I know fully well that I will be surprising and upsetting people around me as I start to assert myself more. I now choose to be treated a certain way and will accept nothing less. It is empowering to know this and although most of us have the tendency, to a certain extent, to please others, the key is to remember that anyone who truly cares about you will respect and appreciate you for demanding respect. Any loss along the way is actually a gain in the long run, make sure to keep this mind. You are worth it!
In conclusion, last week was one of the most painful weeks of my life and yet I feel a certain amount of peace knowing I am finally listening to my needs. It is also why I am a bit late with posting my blog post…Ha ha I know excuses, excuses!
Now, let’s tend to business. Amongst the chaos of last week, I did receive a sweet gift. I have never been to a Sens game (terrible I know) and have been wanting to go for months. Well I was beyond surprised and grateful when a friend showed up with tickets to the last game of the season ! Yay… I got to wear my Senators hat.
Week #7 Challenge (April 4th to 10th) : Attend a Sens Hockey Game!
Watching the hockey game live was exciting and all the activities and shows surrounding the game itself were very entertaining. My favourite part being when the people dressed in Prime Minister Costumes to race on the ice. So ridiculous! Who came up with this, seriously?
Since it was the last game of the season, it was considered the Sens Fans Appreciation game! So needless to say many prizes were handed out which was also pretty awesome. Another thing checked off my bucket list!